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I'm really glad the holidays are over. I don't know about the rest of you, but the holidays have become more stressful than I think they should be. I come from a family of five girls and one boy. It's always been a tradition for the family to get together and celebrate ALL the holidays - Easter, Mother's Day, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. Here's my problem. Two of us are mothers ourselves. Consequently, by celebrating Mother's Day with the other sisters and our mother, we don't really get to celebrate the fact that we ourselves are mothers because we are pushed to the back. Thanksgiving and Christmas have become a real nightmare. Extended families all have celebrations so my children have ended up having three and four "Thanksgivings and Christmases" in two and three different cities. What's really great is that at any given time, there are at least two or three feuds going on between the sisters. Family get-togethers are a real treat.
I truly believe that by the time you're 50-some years old and have grandchildren of your own, you should be able to establish your own family traditions. I have one sister (the only sister with children) that is in total agreement with me, another sister who has completely turned her back on the family and doesn't attend family events anyway, and two sisters that I'm fairly certain wouldn't give a rat's posterior if we all got together or not. We all do it for my mother. I would like to suggest that every year, one of us have my mom and stepdad come to our home for whatever Christmas festivities we decide to have, and everyone can do whatever they want to do for Christmas. I just don't know how that suggestion will be received. I've reached a point where instead of looking forward to the holidays, I just want to run and hide until they're over and it's safe to come out.
Any suggestions?
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