| Truth or Dare: How Honest Should You Be | |||||
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To tell or not to tell…Can you afford to be really honest in your relationship? There is a yes and no answer to this issue. Yes, it can be good to honestly share about the major relationships of your past (usually three to five is average). It can help you to understand each other more by discussing and analyzing past relationships, like: what brought you together with past loves, what caused the separations, and anything in between that you feel will not threaten your current relationship in any way. This will show your mate that you trust him  You could, and should also talk candidly with your mate about any hurtful relationship experiences you may have had—abuse, rape, or childhood molestation. Don’t hide any of this from him. It wasn’t your fault that someone did such an awful thing to you. Any decent mate will understand and will want to protect you from ever getting hurt again, and will in fact draw him closer to you. \ However, what is sure to tear your romantic relationship apart is if you’re not over an ex. The question is, should you admit this to your man? Absolutely, not! It would be downright hurtful. What you should do is figure out why you’re still carrying feelings for someone who has left. Let it go and move on. Put your emotions into your current relationship and withdraw your invested emotional energy from the one who is now yesterday’s history. Another definite no for discussion is if you’ve had more than ten lovers in the past. For instance, if you were once a promiscuous woman, who has had enough male lovers to  It is ancient Biblical wisdom, that there is a time and a season for everything: “a time to speak and a time to withhold from speaking.” Honesty is truly the best policy, but be smart with your heart. To sum it up in a nutshell, “there’s a time for the past to be told, and a time for you to withhold.” |
