|Married with Girlfriends|
Have any of you gentlemen ever wondered why your significant other gets suspicious whenever she sees you talking to another woman, or discovers there are women listed as friends on your MySpace, Facebook, Twitter or eGenerations page? The reason is that she actually believes in her heart that she knows you. She is convinced that men are incapable of having a totally platonic relationship with a woman. Sure, a woman can have male friends without wanting to jump into the sack with them or at the very least wonder what they look like naked but a man, no way. Of course this makes me wonder if women believe that their men friends are different from other men and arenít fantasizing about them with their clothes off.
There was a time in my life when I too thought it impossible for a man to have a platonic relationship with a woman without lust raising its ugly head. Iím pretty sure itís impossible for a testosterone filled young man to be around a woman without nature taking over control of their body. Itís the reason young men are so easily incited to violence whenever they see their girlfriend talking to another man. Just knowing some dude is having impure thought about your girlfriend is bound to start a fight.
However, now that I have aged, matured to a fine mellow state of emotional awareness, I realize that it is not only possible to have friends of the opposite sex, itís probably healthy for your marriage to have friends outside the relationship. Of course there is a right way to have girlfriends outside the marriage and a wrong way.
First, donít be sneaky about it. When you make a new girlfriend, inform your wife about her. If she finds out about your girlfriend before you tell her, she will assume she is more than just a friend. Donít buy your girlfriends presents that are nicer than what you would buy for your wifeósexy lingerie is out of the question. Never compare your wife to your girlfriend or vise versaówomen hate that no matter what the relationship.
Finally, try not to picture your girlfriends without clothes. Once you have done that you have taken the first step on the slippery slope towards having more than just a girlfriend. Done right, a wife will accept your girlfriend. On the other hand, if she accepts the fact that you have a mistress, even though that might seem like a pretty good deal for you, you have a serious problem.