It begins in the delivery room. A small bundle wrapped in a soft blanket is cradled in loving arms. It opens its eyes only a slit, yawns and anyone who sees it is smitten. Tears of joy well up in the eyes of the people who witness this phenomenon. This look has very long lasting effects.

It continuous as the child grows older and somewhere around adolescence it seems to diminish in the males and is increased in the females. Young ladies learn to use the sweet and innocent look, a slightly relaxed stance with eyes down cast, occasional looking up and back down again with a slight smile. It has a way of getting fathers to open their wallets a little wider. Its effects can make young males do all sort of tricks just to see it again. It has a way of canceling out any trace of common sense in males.

Another look that can totally disarm anyone, is the You have got to be kidding look. It beginning with eye-to-eye contact, a look that runs directly down to the toes, pauses for a second and goes back to the eyes, followed with a full belly laugh. This look can stop any idea the recipient may have had, dead in its tracts. Next time your spouse wants you to do something you don't want to do, try it. You will see them looking back at you in total confusion and the dumbest expression you have ever seen on their face.

Animals have a way of dominating another animal or being the aggressor simply by staring at it too long. Staring is a way of invading personal space. It’s a very discomforting feeling.

History is full stories of The Evil Eye. All cultures have stories of people who could just look as someone and make their crops die, make men impotent and other unspeakable things. We have all hear the expression “If looks could kill” It’s probably the most widely know non verbal curse there is.

We have all seen the look of total love. We see it in our pets, sometimes in the eyes of our children and spouses. The look of concern in the eyes of our doctor, the mechanic or plumber. These looks are usually followed by the look of shock when we are given their bill. We recognize the look of shock by the dropped jaw, dry mouth, dilated pupils and trembling hands as we reach for the checkbook.

We look forward to the tease look. It’s the look of laughter. It can come with slightly pursed lips that resemble the beginning of a kiss. It says, 'You might get lucky if you play your cards right.” If you goof up, you might not get lucky, you might get the You got to be kidding look.